For My Mother May I Inherit Half Her Strength
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In the poem, For My Mother (May I Inherit Half Her Strength), the writer Lorna Goodison made many things clear about her parents and their relationship, how her mother suffered in her marriage and how she dealt with her pain along with ways how her mother showed her strength which she (Lorna) wished to inherit.
Most people would consider the speaker??™s mother and father to be an ill-mannered couple because of the type of relationship they shared. She was first stunned by his handsomeness and his charming words but she never took the time to fully understand and know him. She was a woman with hopes and dreams when he had nothing, and she threw it all away to be with him and start a family. She was a person who did not show or talk about the pain she experienced by her husbands infidelity. He was hardly home, but yet she would work all day and still stay up waiting for him until he would come home. She would never discuss with him what was happening. Even at the day of their wedding, the difference between them was displayed. Although she was pregnant with his child, she still did not want to act like she was neither did she want to express her feelings boldly but he did and that made her cry because she was embarrassed. He was bold and didn??™t want to pretend or hide anything while she was shy and liked pretending. Day after day they would go on living as if nothing was happening and everything was alright. Most people would find this disturbing because they should have shared a bond where they could talk to one and other and work out there problems instead of masking their true feelings and emotions. They did not share a normal relationship.
Lorna??™s mother, Doris suffered a lot during her marriage. He was unfaithful to her and did it constantly. He was never at home to support her and the children physically or mentally. She was tricked into believing that he was a decent person who would have not neglect his parental duties of feeding, teaching, settling disputes and making sacrifices for them. Instead of crying over spilt milk, she took up the responsibility herself and did all these things. Day after day, she would sit at her machine sewing, breast-feeding, teaching them how to read or help with homework and even settled disputes; and she would do all this sewing. Even at his death, there was this ???friend??? who stood by her side and it was clear that it was one of his mistresses. She held her composure although she knew what was going on, she remained a lady. She remained adamant; she summoned her straight-back walk and buried him dry-eyed. Although left alone to take care of nine children, she remained strong.
Doris showed her strength in many ways throughout the poem. It took a lot of strength to be treated badly, cheated on and deceived and to never mention the hurt. There was a point of realization where she broke down and cried because he was gone, and for just that once, she did not have to be brave. Although he was never there to help her to take care of their nine children, she took care of them herself and nurtured and fed them. Her hands were no longer soft, she was fat, and her breast sagged and he had died leaving her all alone but yet she remained strong and continued her life with her children. Even at his death, it took a lot of strength for her to remain a lady and not brutalize or start a dispute with his mistress instead she simply ignored the fact she (the mistress) was there.